Set the Table

It’s important we train our players to see the good in themselves, in others and in the group.  This is a skillset you’d hope would come natural to people, but unfortunately that’s not always the case.  Most people are often bent on seeing the ‘’glass half empty” and finding what’s wrong rather than what’s right.

As a leader, it’s important we identify the positive and can speak on those.  It builds optimism, confidence, enthusiasm and provides encouragement.

As a leader it’s also important you feel comfortable standing in front of your peers and addressing them.  This isn’t needed all the time but at times it’s all that’s needed.  Getting practice now is better than not being comfortable doing it later when the team may need it most.

This exercise will get your players into the habit of finding the good in themselves, others and the team.  It’ll also allow them the opportunity to lower their guard and build up their comfort zone in front of their team.  Both important components in growth as a leader.

"“I never felt comfortable in the past standing in front of the group but having the Me-We-You be a regular thing for our team, I got to the point where talking in front of the team was no big deal”"
JV Girls Field Hockey player

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Lesson Plan

Player Growth Areas

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Example Video

See Me, We, You in action below to get a better understanding of how to teach the the Exercise.

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Exercise Reminder Card

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Quiz Questions

Quiz Questions

Use these questions below to engage after you have taught the exercise.

  • As a leader, it’s important we identify the _______ and ___________.
  • That which gets praised, gets ___________.
  • Why is it important to celebrate the success of individuals on the team?


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At Home

Coaches, use the below question, reflection, and action to engage parents, guardians, and other family members in the lessons learned in this exercise.

Suggestions on how to use: Email to parents the day you have taught this lesson, add it to the materials you send home, or text it to text message threads with your players.

  • Question: Why is it important to be proud of yourself?
  • Reflection: Do you feel comfortable speaking in front of your peers? Why or why not
  • Action: Lead your family through a round of Me, We, You. Have each person in your family share.
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Coach’s Reflection

Coach, take a moment to reflect on the lesson and how you can lead by example to your players. 

Coach, you put in a tremendous amount of time and effort. You are passionate about building your athletes’ leadership and character and deserve recognition. It’s important that you take some time to reflect on what you are proud of. What have you done as a leader that you are proud of? You should feel proud of yourself for the work you’ve put in.